I didn’t realize how unreasonable my expectations of love were from others until I realized that other people just don’t do things like remember offhand comments about your favourite things and then use that knowledge to improve their care for you. Or get the perfect gift for you.
Something that’s helped me realize this is the fact that when I remember someone’s name after only meeting them once or twice and then not seeing them for months they don’t accept it. It shocks them. It blows them away. They’ve had haircuts, they’ve changed styles. And they can barely believe it when I see right through that.